Where is the line drawn? Is it endless support, financially and emotionally because they are our children? Do you love them regardless of how they treat you?
I am a very firm believer that blood is NOT thicker than water. I can't and won't let people stay in my life, that suck the life out of me or cause me stress and anxiety, no matter who they are.
Kids are affected by their childhood. They grow up to be a product of their circumstances, unless they choose to make a change for the better. Good or bad, they follow the path that they are used to. They can be happy, well adjusted adults or they can be miserable and blame their childhood and their parents. It's their choice.
As a parent, you try to guide them in the right direction. You do the very best that you can. You lead by example, not by words! You teach them the necessary tools that they need to make it, on their own. You try to balance the good and the bad. But in the end, as adults, they need to take their knowledge and experience to achieve their own happiness. We can't make them happy now! It's now up to them to control their destiny. We can't continue to coddle them as if they are still children, but when we don't, we are blamed for NOT caring, NOT supporting, and to some, that means NOT loving them.
So do you continue to support your children? Or do you change the direction, that you have always followed, so that they can make their decisions to support themselves, mentally, physically, and emotionally? Keep on the same path that they are used to or change the direction, for them to grow into their own selves?
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